Deciding to end a marriage is one of the hardest steps you can take, but while it’s not an easy choice, sometimes it’s necessary. But how do you determine what is a bad patch that can be worked through and when it’s time to divorce? Our Raleigh divorce attorneys are sharing the six signs it may be time to end the marriage.
Domestic Abuse in the Marriage
Domestic abuse, whether it’s physical, emotional, or mental abuse, in a relationship is often irreconcilable. Even though there are often periods of happiness, abuse is often cyclical, in which abuse takes place, the abuser apologizes, and a “honeymoon phase” of peace and happiness occurs. Too often, something triggers another incident of abuse, and the longer a couple is together, the shorter the periods of peace and the more frequent the abuse.
Without counseling, divorce should be a serious option in order to protect yourself and your wellbeing.
Infidelity Has Occurred
Infidelity is often hard to move past, and many spouses divorce over extramarital affairs. While forgiveness and healing can take place and the couple can overcome this challenge and renew their intimacy and trust, both parties must be willing to move forward. If one spouse continues to cheat or engage in untrustworthy behavior or the other spouse simply can’t forgive the other for their transgressions, this is a sign that it’s time to divorce.
Your Partner Won’t Seek Addiction Treatment
Addiction affects millions of people, and it tears families apart. While addiction is an illness, whether it’s a prescription medication, alcohol, or gambling, if the person refuses to admit there is a problem or refuses to seek help, it may not be healthy for your wellbeing to stay in the marriage. Having a spouse who is struggling with addiction can expose your children to unsafe experiences, or if they get arrested, having a spouse serving jail time can compromise your living situation. You can’t force someone to seek treatment for addiction, but you can take care of yourself.
One Spouse Causes Financial Hardship
Financial problems are the leading cause of divorce, more than infidelity and domestic abuse. However, simply struggling with money is not necessarily a sign to divorce. The issue often comes when one spouse is causing the family to be in financial hardship, such as if your spouse has a gambling problem, goes into debt due to shopping, or is causing the family to live beyond their means in order to “keep up with the Jones’.”
When both of you can’t agree on how to spend money over a long period of time and it’s continually a point of contention in the marriage, divorce is most likely the end result.
There Is No Communication
There’s no question that communication is essential in a healthy relationship. If there is an issue, even a minor one, and one or both spouses ignore it and refuse to discuss it, or any attempt to communicate breaks down into an argument, this is a serious concern. An inability to communicate about emotions, parenting, finances or any of the challenges you face as a couple can cause your marriage to fall apart.
Going Through the Motions
While a routine in a relationship is normal, and it may seem impossible to keep things interesting after several years, if you feel like you or your partner is unable to make an effort to communicate, spark intimacy, or show affection, this is a red flag. Marriages take work and if one partner refuses to put in any work or takes advantage of the other, and counseling or other means to improve the marriage don’t help, it may be time to move on.
Schedule a Consultation with Our Raleigh Divorce Attorneys
If it is time to step away from the marriage and choose divorce, having a divorce attorney to guide you through the process and advocate on your behalf can help you move on into the next chapter of your life. Schedule a consultation with an attorney today by calling us at (919) 301-8843 or filling out the form below to get started.
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